Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Let's get organized! Part 1: Living Room

I've been promising for a while, via Facebook, and this blog, that I was going to post pictures of our reorganization project.  Well... it's taken a little (ok, a lot) longer than I anticipated, but we are almost done!

First let me say that I generally think of myself as an organized person.  I can't stand clutter, and I can't stand to have things around that aren't useful.  Thus, every 6 months or so, I clean out.  We did a huge cleaning out last summer in preparation for the child we were adopting (didn't know it was Kristen at the time!).  However, we had some spaces that we felt like weren't being utilized properly, and could be better organized. 

I have to thank my fabulous family for sticking with me as I went through literally every single thing in our house, to decide whether or not we were keeping it, and if so, where were we going to store it? We moved entire closets, rethought how we were using our space, and have made some pretty big changes around here! This involved many nights of eating out (sometimes we couldn't even get near the kitchen because I was storing stuff in there!)

We had some criteria  for whether items stayed or went:
1. Do we love it?
2. Is it useful to us? (More specifically, have we used it in the last year?)
3. If we keep it, will our children still have space for the things they need? I'm not saying they need tons of things, and we try to keep toys, etc. pretty minimal, but obviously, they need space for clothes, a few toys, etc.

Just a quick background.  We are staying put in our 2 bedroom 800 sq. foot apartment for the time being.  There are lots of reasons for this- but we feel like this is the best decision for our family right now.  We figured we better start making some space for Samuel's November arrival.  So the plan is to give him some closet space in Kristen's room, and clear out some space in our room for a pack-n-play where he will sleep.  (We don't want him waking up Kristen in the middle of the night.)

So... without further delay, here's what we did in the living room.

(No, I didn't take before pictures- I was too embarrassed!)

The problem: We needed space for our home office needs, some homeschool materials that I use with Kristen, and my craft things.

What we had: Craft stuff was just everywhere, and I couldn't get to it when I needed to, didn't know what I had, etc.   Our homeschool stuff was in a pile by the kitchen table, and our office stuff was stored (mostly) in a desk that we had.  It was also in piles (to be filed, paid, etc.) on my dresser. (Lovely and peaceful for sleeping at night, right?)

When we analyzed our use of space, we realized that we weren't even using the desk.  We used it to pile stuff on, and that was it.  No one sat at it.  K does homework at the kitchen table and we usually use our laptops while sitting on our couch.  Also, the desk was old, and falling apart. 

The solution: I bought these 2 shelves from Walmart.  They are prefab. from Better Homes and Gardens.  The baskets I got on sale at Target.

The left shelves hold my crafting stuff.  The top is scrapbook, the middle baskets are miscellaneous, and cross stitch.  The bottom holds yarn... oh the many projects that I have planned for that yarn!

The right side holds our office stuff. 

On top, we have a mail sorter that has 2 labels: "file" and "respond." Now, instead of piling our mail up for days, we open it immediately and put it into one of those 2 categories.  Trash goes immediately into the trash.  When I pay bills, I put away anything that needs filing, and I respond to anything that needs responding.

The top shelves have anything we need for mailing, envelopes, stamps, address book, etc. and miscellaneous office supplies.

The middle basket has paper.  I also have a small filing box on this shelf.  When I pay bills, the things that need filed go into this box.  At the end of the year, my plan is to take those folders, sort them,
 and put anything that we need to keep into our larger filing system that is in our bedroom closet.

The bottom shelf has all of our homeschool materials.

We've been living with this system for a few weeks now, and it's working wonderfully! I love that everything has a place.  Also, most of my baskets are not full, and I have more space on my shelves that I can utilize if needed.  Another plus is that now that I can see everything I have, I won't be buying duplicates (we seriously had like 5 bottles of glue before I went through them-- and Kristen has more in her room!)  It also takes up less space than our desk did.  And the best part, is that there isn't anywhere to lay down our junk! We have to put it away, or throw it away immediately!

The rest of our living room was pretty functional, so we didn't really make changes.  I went through, and straightened up the bookshelf, the drawer under our TV cabinet, and our DVD's, but nothing in those areas needed to be reorganized really. 

Anyway- that's our living room organization! Next up, the kitchen!

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

K's family tour

This past weekend, Kristen got to meet her Peepaw and Momo (aka. Scott and Imogene- Will's dad and stepmom).  They came up on Thursday night, and left us Saturday afternoon.  We had a fantastic time with them! 

Thursday they came over to our apartment to meet Kristen, give her presents (I mean, what better way to introduce yourself to someone!), and read her a bedtime story.

...I don't know how to turn these photos in blogger. sorry!




Friday, they took her shopping and out to eat.

This was the only photo I took Friday- Peepaw getting a massage at the mall!
Saturday, we went to the Speed Art Museum.  What a neat museum! We hadn't been before, but someone gave us passes, and we decided to give it a try.  They have all sorts of stuff for kids too.  I highly recommend it!


She loved meeting them, and we are so thankful they got to come! 


Saturday, July 7, 2012

All my love

This is  a song that's been on my heart lately.  In fact, I've never once been able to listen to it without crying... and I don't mean getting just a little teary, I mean a full-on sobfest where ever I happen to be (usually in the car).  Listen to the song, and then I'll tell you why it's on my heart:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARIe3PUgu84

The writer/singer of this song wrote it about his baby boy, who was born with a heart defect.  You can read his story here: http://bowensheart.com/

For Kristen: Kristen does not have a heart defect, but she's got a lot going on.  I haven't, and I won't go into a ton of detail about her past, or her current issues, but suffice it to say that you are not removed from your biological parents and placed in foster care for no reason.  If you are imagining the worst that could have happened to her, you probably aren't even close... So she (like anyone would) has a lot of issues that she is dealing with.  Some of those things she may be able to overcome, but many of them she probably won't be able to overcome.  Y'all, the teenage years have us scared to death for her.

We know that there will probably be a lot of heartache ahead with her.  Her future is very uncertain.  My mom says that we need to believe and hope the best for her, and we do, and we absolutely believe God is working a miracle in her life right now.  We are amazed at the progress that she's made just in the few short months she's been home.  However, we want to be prepared for issues that we might face in the future so that we're not totally caught off guard by them.  It's tough to balance.

That said, I have found myself in the past wondering if it's worth it to really invest the time, love and energy into her, just so that I can have my heart broken.  Y'all, there are tears for her daily around our home.  As I read my Bible, and I pray, and I listen to this song, I have realized that I have to give her everything I have, and every single ounce of my love, even if it's not enough.  It's the only way that she stands a chance...

For Sam: My miracle baby.  We didn't do a lot of testing, but we didn't think we'd be able to have biological children, and we were ok with that.  We'd tried for 2 1/2 years, and really thought that God wanted us to build our family strictly through adoption.  After a miscarriage in 2010, I really wasn't sure I wanted to be pregnant again.  That miscarriage absolutely rocked me to my core.  It took about a year before I was even close to "myself" again.  So when we found out we were pregnant again, we were thrilled, but my first thought was to keep it to ourselves, and not tell anyone until after the 1st trimester.  I thought if we didn't tell anyone, then it wouldn't be so real, I wouldn't get so attached, and it wouldn't be so traumatic if/when we miscarried.  However, this song taught me that I had to love this baby with reckless abandon. This baby is my child, just like the baby we miscarried, and just like Kristen.  Our pregnancy is not over, and I know that a lot could still go wrong, but I am not going to let that stop me from loving him with all I have.  If I don't, I know that I'll regret it.

God has taught me that I have no control over how he's growing and developing.  God is the one who is forming Sam in my womb.  I have to trust Him that He loves Sam more than I do, and that He is taking care of Him- just like He loves Kristen more than I do, and He's got her life under control.


There's so much more I could say about this, but God has really taken me on a journey of letting go of control, and giving that to Him over the past couple of years.  It's been rough because my OCD self wants things done a certain way, but it's been GOOD y'all.  It's been good.

Saturday, June 30, 2012

Family Day

When we were thinking about things we'd like to do this summer, we decided that we would like to make Saturday a family day.  The goal was to get all of our normal weekend chores (cleaning, groceries, bills, etc.) finished during the week, so that Saturday could be devoted to playing together as a family. 

Well... the 1st week of summer we were all trying to catch our breath from the school year, and K and I actually ended up working in my classroom every day that week, so it didn't happen then.  The 2nd week of summer was VBS at church, and we were wiped. out. Plus, the 3rd week of summer was our vacation, so we were busy cleaning/packing etc.  So this week was really our 1st true week of summer it seems, and we spent that busily cleaning out/reorganizing (more on that in future posts- I promise!) 

Anyway, this Saturday was the 1st Saturday that we've made good on our "Family Day" promise.  We talking about going to the zoo, but since it's 15 million degrees outside, we decided we better seek refuge indoors and we ended up at the Louisville Science Center, and then to Graeter's for ice cream.  Will and I had been once to the Science Center, but K had never been and she had a BLAST!


checking out bubbles

inside of a bubble!

playing a game very similar to DDR- they were both pretty terrible!


sitting inside of a Gemini Space Capsule

Learning how to make paper
Y'all- I feel like she's wearing the same outfit every time I post pictures on here.  I promise she has more clothes! It just works out that way for some reason!  Also, she's growing her bangs out (her choice) which makes me sad because I feel like she looks way too grown up. :( 

What fun adventures has your family been on this summer?  Any suggestions of where we should go next??

Sunday, June 24, 2012

Our 1st Vacation

Will and I have not really been on a vacation since we went with my family to Arizona in 2009.  We celebrated my grandparents' 50th wedding anniversary.  We have done a few weekends away here and there, but his school/work schedule prevented us from taking much more time than that.  Now that he has graduated, and Kristen is here, we knew we were due (way past due) for a vacation.  Kristen had never been on a vacation before, and was unbelievably excited.  We looked at several places to go, and eventually decided that Pigeon Forge/Gatlinburg was the perfect distance away, and had all the things we were looking to do.  So here's a rundown of our trip:

Sunday: After church, we loaded up the van, grabbed some lunch and took off.  We grabbed some dinner, checked into our cabin, unpacked, put K to bed, and Will and I immediately headed to the hot tub (don't worry- I only soaked my feet and legs, and I had a timer set for 20 minutes so I wouldn't hurt Sam.)

Monday: K slept in until 11:15- what?!- we had to wake her up! Crazy.  Will and I played pool while we waited for her to wake up/decided how long we should let her sleep, and then we all headed to the aquarium.  The aquarium down there is awesome, and you should definitely check it out if you go.  K's favorite part was the mermaids who swam with the stingrays. 

Tuesday: K wanted a pool day- so that's what we did.  Our cabin had access to a pool, and it was so peaceful.  In fact, for most of the day, we were the only people at the pool.  Heaven.  We went back to our cabin for lunch, and had a watermelon seed spitting contest off of our balcony (normally I wouldn't encourage such manners, but hey, it was vacay!)  That night, we took K to play putt-putt.  They had several really cool courses, and Will picked one that had a lost treasure theme.  You ride a train to the 1st hole, and then the holes are located inside volcanoes, on mountains, etc.  Very cool.  We ended the night with some ice cream.

Wednesday: We went for a hike (ok, more of a walk with it being so hot, me being preggo, and it being K's 1st time)  in the Smoky Mountains.  We loved the beautiful views and the hike ended at a waterfall.  Beautiful.  Then, we ate a picnic lunch in the park. 

Thursday: We had the rest of the days planned before we left, but Thursday was still up in the air.  We really wanted to go to Dollywood, but we weren't sure if K could handle it.  She gets very easily overstimulated, and also doesn't have much stamina for long days (a few hours at the zoo is usually enough to have her passed out for the rest of the evening.)  As the week went on, we realized that Dollywood was just not going to be a possibility so we started looking into other options.  We ended up going to the Knoxville Zoo (Knoxville is about 30-40 minutes away), and we had a blast! It was basically empty and it was a nice break from all of the herds of tourists around Gatlinburg/Pigeon Forge.  That night, we went out to eat to get BBQ.  Sam hadn't been moving much that week, and I was starting to get a little bit concerned, but as soon as I started eating the ribs that I ordered, he was moving all over the place! It was like he was jumping for joy! So funny.

Friday:  We checked out of our cabin (sadly), and went to get pancakes.  Oh my goodness y'all.  You have to go to Flap Jacks and get their sticky bun pancakes. I was in heaven (Sam enjoyed those too!)  Then, we took K to a place where you could "mine" your own rocks, gemstones, etc.  K has a rock collection at home, so we thought she would enjoy that.  We actually found some real gemstones, and we are trying to decide if we should have them cut, polished, and set in jewelry.  I have to admit that this was Will's idea, and I was a bit skeptical, but I should have trusted him.  We had a great time! 



 After we did that, it was time to head back home...



 All in all, I don't think we could have asked for a better 1st family vacation.  I think we went the perfect distance, (we were just starting to get the "are we there yet?" questions) stayed the perfect length of time (we were all starting to get a little tired towards the end), and staying outside of the city in a cabin provided the perfect escape to all the hustle and bustle. 

Saturday, June 9, 2012

Stranded at the drive-in...

Yes! Now that I've got that song stuck in your head, (You know you love it!) I will tell you about Kristen's 1st drive-in experience. :)

Our friends, Bryan and Amy, introduced us to the drive-in a couple summers ago, and since then, it's been one of our favorite summer traditions. The drive-in is in Georgetown, Indiana, maybe 30 minutes from Louisville??  Here's the website: www.georgetowndrivein.com

So, last night was the 1st time they have shown a kids movie so far this summer- Madagascar 3, so we thought it was the perfect time to take Kristen! 

Before the movie, they had pony rides...



 Kristen liked the movie, and the food, and the ponies, but she LOVED it when we put the back seat down in the van, and made her a little pallet to lay on while she watched the movie.  I mean seriously, if I knew that's all it took to keep her entertained.... lol!  We had a wonderful family night!


So if you want to go, here are a few suggestions:
1. Arrive EARLY! The movie started around 9:30, and we got  there at 7:00.  Good thing too, because by 7:30, it was FULL! 

2. Bring things to do while you wait.  There is a playground for the kids (but it's usually packed), and last night they had pony rides, so we got to do that.  They also have an aracade.  We brought card games, and coloring books to pass the time.  We also ate dinner while we were waiting.

3. If you want to stay on your diet, bring your own food (you're allowed!).  Otherwise, the concessions are really inexpensive (like $2 for a burger), and they are really yummy, and really fried (pickles, cheese sticks, mac and cheese, etc).  They also showed a clip last night before the movie that talked about how drive-ins are closing across the country because the upkeep is so expensive.  The production companies take most of the $ from the ticket sales, so most of their revenue comes from concessions.  (Side note: I cried during that clip- preggo much?!)

4. Don't go unless you can sleep in the next morning!  Will and Kristen are still asleep (it's about 10:45).  They can't start the movie until it gets dark (around 9:30), and they usually show a double feature.  You don't have to stay for the 2nd movie, but your admission includes both movies, and K fell asleep in the van, so we decided to stay and watch it.

5. Bring cash- for the ticket sales, they will only take cash.  At the concessions, they will take cards with a $5 minimum purchase.

Adoption help

A lot of people have asked me where they can go to get started with the adoption process, or who we went with, etc...

Here are some websites that we found helpful:


This is the Kentucky Special Needs Adoption Program- it's what we did:
http://chfs.ky.gov/dcbs/dpp/Special+Needs+Adoption+Program+%28SNAP%29.htm

Get your tissues out if you go to this website- and don't go if you are hormonal ;) :
adoptuskids.org

Our church has an adoption ministry that also has a lot of helpful websites, etc.:
http://www.rosalynnshope.org/

This is just a small... very small list of resources, but we are happy to answer any questions that anyone has, or to do research about other agencies.  There tons of good adoption agencies, so it's a good idea to do your research, and ask around from other people who have adopted.